Many teens of that era wore purity rings on their hand where their wedding ring would later go as a reminder to "save themselves" for their future husband or wife. Other books like, " The Bride Wore White" and movements like the "True Love Waits" conferences also helped build the narrative that if you waited for "God to write your love story," then everything would be beautiful, romantic, and perfect. "I kissed Dating Goodbye" refers to the influential book by Joshua Harris that called Christian young people to stop the flighty dating patterns of their peers and embrace old fashioned courtship. After a challenge thread this week in a mom blogging group to which I belong, I've decided that it's time to tell my survivor story.īefore I continue, I should probably explain my terms. I also don't usually do controversy on this blog, and was afraid to express my opinions on this issue. I have wanted to comment on the controversy for a long time, but I needed to wait until I had processed my emotions and disappointments. It seemed like the vast majority of the conversation was centered around how bad courting is for lasting relationships, how purity culture harms everyone who practices it, and how "pure" couples don't have lasting marriages. I kissed it goodbye, and I didn't look back.Īfter Joshua Harris renounced his book and purity culture in general a few months ago, many people were again talking about kissing dating goodbye. At 14/15, I had even even thought about dating a boy, but it didn't matter. Being the young, impressionable, Christian girl that I was back then, I committed to kissing dating goodbye too. Back then, evangelical Christians were talking about the radical book by Joshua Harris and making their own purity pledges. Like all of my blog posts, this is only my opinion.Ģ0 years ago, I kissed dating goodbye. It's just my story that I'm telling- a chance for me to process many of my thoughts and emotions. Disclosure- this post is not aimed at any one person or one group specifically.
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